Sunday, February 20, 2011
Building Confidence Step by Step
A gentleman exudes confidence without being cocky, boastful or full of false pride. Confidence is not something that we are either born with or not. If we feel we lack the level of confidence we need to fulfill our dreams we can take action to improve our self esteem. Confidence can be developed through intentional actions and affirmations. Little victories add up to feelings of accomplishment which feed feelings of expectations of success, leading to a confident attitude. Just about everyone has feelings of anxiety and shyness in certain situations. The key to overcoming these bouts of low self esteem are to recognize them for what they are (building awareness) and understand you can survive and overcome even the most distressing situations.
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Maintaining self-esteem is a lifelong psychological process. Think of self-esteem as a mental muscle that must be developed and maintained through regular psychological workouts—or you will be vulnerable to depression and anxiety. It must be renegotiated at each stage of life and in each domain of experience. When we build up the self-esteem muscle deep inside us, we learn to like and respect who we are, no matter what is happening around us.
10 ways to Acheive your goals
Have a look at this list of 10 common ways you might go about achieving your goals. Most of these should be familiar, but which ones do you think work? More to the point: which ones do or don't you use?
Make a step-by-step plan.
Motivate yourself by focusing on someone who has achieved a similar goal.
Tell other people about your goal.
Think about bad things that will happen if you do not achieve your goal.
Think about the good things that will happen if you achieve your goal.
Try to suppress unhelpful or negative thoughts about your goal and how to achieve it.
Reward yourself for making progress in your goal.
Rely on willpower.
Record your progress.
Fantasize or visualize how great your life will be when you achieve your go
Thursday, February 17, 2011
What Every Gentleman Needs To Know
I started ballroom dancing over 3 and half years ago and any man who wants to make a woman feel special should acquire this much appreciated skill. Here I am dancing a foxtrot with my beautiful partner Jenn!
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
NYT -Relationship Deal Breakers
What Are Your Relationship Deal Breakers?
By TARA PARKER-POPE
What are the qualities that you must have in a relationship? What are the behaviors that you simply can’t stand?
The dating Web site eHarmony asks all its members these questions, and the answers offer a glimpse into the collective minds of men and women as they embark on a new relationship.
When eHarmony members begin to communicate with a prospective date, both sides are required to exchange a list of “must haves” and “can’t stands.” These are the positive and negative qualities that are nonnegotiable and help the couple decide if they want to pursue a dating relationship.
Now eHarmony has analyzed the “must have” and “can’t stand” responses of nearly 720,000 members, identifying the top 10 relationship deal breakers for men and women.
Men and women agree on many of the “must haves.” They want a sense of humor, someone who is affectionate and kind, chemistry, good communication and loyalty. Not surprisingly, both sexes want someone who is emotionally healthy, and who is honest and has strong character.
But there were also differences. Men said they must have a woman who is patient, meaning she “can handle life’s frustrations or momentary setbacks with a patient and steady demeanor.” A partner who is “passionate” was the seventh most important quality listed by men, but passion didn’t make the top 10 list for women.
Instead, women said they must have a partner who is financially responsible and committed to family life, qualities that were not listed as important by men
Men and women were mostly in agreement about what they can’t stand in a relationship, although there were differences in how they ranked various behaviors. Both men and women posted similar concerns about lying, cheating, rude behavior and drug use.
Infidelity was the fourth most common “can’t stand” for women and the sixth most common response for men. More concerning to men was poor hygiene, which they ranked fourth; it was the seventh most common concern for women. Mean-spirited behavior was the fifth most common concern for men, while women ranked it in eighth place. Meanwhile, women said an inability to control anger, by either yelling or bottling it up, was their fifth biggest concern, but for men, anger management dropped to eighth place. Laziness ranked ninth for women and 10th for men in terms of undesirable qualities.
The final quality that women “can’t stand” was being racist. But for men, the remaining deal breaker was “excessive overweight.”
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